{"id":1119,"date":"2021-10-25T07:48:46","date_gmt":"2021-10-25T11:48:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/js1cd06kre.onrocket.site\/?p=1119"},"modified":"2021-10-25T07:48:46","modified_gmt":"2021-10-25T11:48:46","slug":"well-get-together-then","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/glennsreflections.com\/index.php\/2021\/10\/25\/well-get-together-then\/","title":{"rendered":"We’ll Get Together Then"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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\u201cFrankly, this song scares me to death.\u201d

That\u2019s what the late folk rocker Harry Chapin said about Cat\u2019s in the Cradle <\/em>(1974), his only song that ever went to No. 1 on the charts.

The song tells a multi-generational story of a father who is too busy to spend time with his son, only to discover later in life that his son has become too busy to spend time with him.

Chapin, who worked relentlessly to pursue fame as an artist, realized that the lyrics mirrored his relationship with his own son Josh.

My child arrived just the other day, he came to the world in the usual way<\/em>
But there were planes to catch, and bills to pay; he learned to walk while I was away.<\/em>
And he was talkin\u2019 \u2018fore I knew it, and as he grew he\u2019d say:<\/em>
\u201cI\u2019m gonna be like you, Dad.  You know I\u2019m gonna be like you.\u201d<\/em>

And the cat\u2019s in the cradle and the silver spoon, little boy blue and the man in the moon<\/strong><\/em>
When you comin\u2019 home, Dad?  I don\u2019t know when, but we\u2019ll get together then, son.<\/strong><\/em>
You know we\u2019ll have a good time then.<\/strong><\/em>

My son turned ten just the other day.  He said, \u201cThanks for the ball, Dad, come on, let\u2019s play.<\/em>
Can you teach me to throw?\u201d I said, \u201cNot today, I got a lot to do,\u201d he said, \u201cThat\u2019s OK.\u201d<\/em>
And he walked away, but his smile never dimmed, and said, \u201cI\u2019m gonna be like him, yeah.  You know I\u2019m gonna be like him.\u201d  <\/em>[Chorus]<\/em><\/strong>

Well, he came home from college just the other day, so much like a man I just had to say:  \u201cSon, I\u2019m proud of you, can you sit for a while?\u201d<\/em>
He shook his head and said with a smile, \u201cWhat I\u2019d really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys; see you later, can I have them, please?\u201d <\/em>[Chorus]<\/em><\/strong>

I\u2019ve long since retired, my son\u2019s moved away.  I called him up just the other day.<\/em>
I said, \u201cI\u2019d like to see you if you don\u2019t mind.\u201d  He said, \u201cI\u2019d love to, Dad, if I can find the time.<\/em>
You see, my new job\u2019s a hassle and the kids have the flu.  But it\u2019s sure nice talking to you, Dad.<\/em>
It\u2019s been sure nice talking to you.\u201d<\/em>

And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me:  He\u2019d grown up just like me.  My boy was just like me.<\/em>

And the cat\u2019s in the cradle and the silver spoon, little boy blue and the man in the moon<\/strong><\/em>
When you comin\u2019 home, Dad?  I don\u2019t know when, but we\u2019ll get together then, son.<\/strong><\/em>
You know we\u2019ll have a good time then.<\/strong><\/em>

Performance psychologist Jim Loehr describes what he calls a \u201csenseless death.\u201d 

A senseless death comes at the end of a life story that everyone knows isn\u2019t working.  Our family members know it.  Our co-workers know it.  And if we allow ourselves to stop long enough to reflect on the way our stories are turning out, we ourselves know it.

In our moments of greatest clarity, we know that it doesn\u2019t make sense to abandon ourselves to an overarching dream \u2013 a great reputation, perhaps, or a one-of-a-kind collection, or a corner office, or a fat paycheck, or stunning vacations, or a No. 1 Billboard hit \u2013 if it costs us what we know is actually most important. 

Like the depth and integrity of our relationships.  And the authenticity of a life with God. 

We\u2019ll get together then, son.  You know we\u2019ll have a good time then.<\/em>

Only when we choose to transform our \u201cthens\u201d into \u201ctodays\u201d will we have a chance to live before we die.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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